Perfect Relationship

Basically a relationship contains two people who understands each-other and accept each others all the flaws and make a relationship perfect by accepting the imperfections one has. Its all about finding the one who will go through everything without giving up. People cant promise you the perfect relationship but if you keep trying they will stay forever. In a relationship where a sorry and a smile can make everything better again is the perfection in relationship. Love doesn't always come easy but overcoming obstacles, facing challenges, holding on, fighting to be together and never letting go can make relationship even better.

Mark my words, relationships are not about handsome boyfriend and beautiful girlfriend accepting each others flaws and making each-other feel comfortable is what that matters because beauty is in heart if your love is pure you wont ever go for looks because everything is temporary in this world so is beauty, find someone who loves you for what you are trust me if someone asks you to change yourself for them they don't love your appearance that's not love because in love you love them for what they are. A perfect relationship is not actually perfect at all but you have to work for it. For me love means respect in any relationship if there is respect there is love, without respecting each-other don't compromise on a relationship because its not worthy at all.

"I have also gone through a lot in a relationship i loved him with the bottom of my heart. I was never in a relationship before it was my first experience ever when i actually felt love. He was everything what i was looking for but not every relationship has happy ending. I always thought its a myth that love fades away with time but its actually true but you know what keeps the relationship going on is respect of each-other no matter what. Once the respect has gone there is nothing left between the two individuals, self respect is everything. The way he was used to make me realize that i am one for him even with so many flaws having curves, no long hairs, not pretty nose, not fair complexion, not good physique, so many facial hairs, dark circles and wearing spectacles but as time was moving on he once said to me 'when i met you i thought there are so many changes i will have to make in her' that was something that broke me down because he never loved me for what i am he always wanted to change me physically and mentally. I was the most happiest person around him and wanted to get married with him but his family never liked me as a person they had so many issues with my physical appearance because i am not beautiful. Being in relationship for almost two years i realized not every person comes in your life to love you some people just come to make you learn lessons not every person is happy with you and not every person is trustworthy. People should never measure their love in relationship time is just number nothing else. Measure the beautiful moments you have had together when you actually felt loved."

We need to understand that we should listen each-other not because we are suppose to answer them listen to understand, we always doesn't need a brilliant mind that speaks but a patient heart that listens. Remember, communication and trust are two main ingredients for a good relationship. In any relationship there are fights, jealousy, arguments, faith, misunderstandings, tears but when two individuals care about each-other, they will always find a way to make it work no matter what. Keep in mind that sometimes it is very necessary to let things go because sometimes peace is better than being right.

To my all readers wish you best of luck with your partner in your relationship, do compromise when needed but don't disrespect yourself for the sake of love. Respect means love, nothing more than that.

Ramzan And Its Blessings

Allah (SWT) has always shown his love ,kindness and mercy toward his creatures but there are some special months, days and times which are told above from rest, Ramzan is also one of those special months in which Allah showers his countless blessings, considered the holiest month of the year, Muslims believe this is when the Holy Quran was “sent down from Heaven, a guidance unto men” . There are many reasons to fast, including the Muslim tradition. Other reasons include self-control. If a person is able to abstain from eating or drinking for that amount of time, he learns to control his desires and temptations and thus has greater self-control.

 Ramzan  is held each year at end of Arabic month. Muslims fast every day during this month and on the completion of the period, which is decided by the appearance of the new moon the next month following Ramzan called Shawal.  Ramzan is the ninth month of the Muslim calendar. It is believed the Holy Quran "was sent down from heaven, a guidance unto men, a declaration of direction, and a means of Salvation" during the month of Ramzan. Ramzan is a time when Muslims concentrate on their faith and spend less time on the concerns of their everyday lives. It is a time of worship and contemplation.  During the Fast of Ramzan strict restraints are placed on the daily lives of Muslims. They are not allowed to eat or drink during the daylight hours.Smoking and sexual relations are also forbidden during fasting. At the end of the day the fast is broken with prayer and a meal called the Iftar. In the evening following the Iftar it is customary for Muslims to go out visiting family and friends. The fast is resumed the next morning.

During Ramzan, it is common for Muslims to go to the Masjid (Mosque) and spend several hours praying and studying the Quran. In addition to the five daily prayers, during Ramzan Muslims recite a special prayer called the Taraweeh prayer (Night Prayer). The length of this prayer is usually 2-3 times as long as the daily prayers. Some Muslims spend the entire night in prayer. Fasting is supposed to teach Muslims about patience and spiritual things. It is a time for Muslims to think about how the poor and homeless suffer without lots of food, it helps Muslims to be more obedient, and less greedy.Muslim ask forgiveness for past sins, pray for guidance and help in refraining from everyday evils, and try to purify themselves through self-restraint and good deeds during this month. On the evening of the 27th day of the month, Muslims celebrate the Laylat-al-Qadr (the Night of Power). It is believed that on this night Muhammad first received the revelation of the Holy Quran. And according to the Quran, this is when God determines the course of the world for the following year. 

Physical Appearance.

 

Being a fat or curvy girl its not easy for you to survive in a world where people judge you every second for your physical appearance, i was very confident as a child because i was unknown of these facts of our society that a girl should be fair and slim no matter what and yes when it comes to get married people are mostly looking for the girls who are very beautiful no matter how they look but they want their partner to be the most fascinating when it comes to looks. For me it was tough to be myself or love myself because there is a point in your life when your own family starts bullying you because of your weight, for them they are trying to help you but um sorry you guys are not helping anyway, you are just pushing me towards depression which leads to bad habits disorder and yes one of them is EATING and trust me it hurts a lot but whatever i still look for motivation where-ever i go, i am always seeking good things around me, so that people stop judging me on the basis of my looks.

 Yeah but wait its not over here, there is one more thing people may judge you for and its your color. Well it might sound awkward but  there are people who are totally fit and smart (physically) but they are also facing the same problem of bullying because they are not fair. We always highlight the word WOMEN that women are facing this problem or that problem but no, MEN are also going through so many things in their lives but the only difference is that they don't like to highlight their problems because our society has set boundaries in which men are men no matter how they are PHYSICALLY after all they are men lol (That's how our society thinks). I think we need more awareness about such things may be, most of the people don't relate with the problem I've mentioned above but guys there are people who feels the same way, most of the times people don't like to discuss such things because they feel its weird and people will make fun of you in future so yeah if you belongs from the narrow-minded people society then trust me people will make fun of you but keep my words in your mind "YOU ARE TOTALLY GREAT, THE WAY YOU ARE AND NOBODY HAS ANY RIGHT TO CHANGE YOU WHETHER PHYSICALLY OR MENTALLY. YOU ARE GORGEOUS/HANDSOME".  If your soul is beautiful than you are beautiful. Your body is just a picture of your story, you know if the story is interesting picture doesn't matter. There are people in this world who are unable to walk, talk, speak but they are alive and living their lives in a very proper way so why not we people just stop looking at the physical appearances and start working on ourselves to become a good human being with a graceful soul (That's what matters) because in the end of our lives our color and weight will not affect our deeds and we will be judged by our beautiful souls.

Society And Women.

Neither man nor woman is perfect or complete without the other.Thus, no marriage or family, no ward or stake is likely to reach its full potential until husbands and wives, mothers and fathers, men and women work together in unity of purpose, respecting and relying upon each other's strengths. Because you are women, people will force their thinking on you, their boundaries on you. They will tell you how to dress, how to behave, who you can meet and where you can go. Don't live in the shadows of people's judgement. Make your own choices in the light of your own wisdom.

 I'm just pulling the girls forward to be fearless of fat and small height or any other phobias because our society is judge-mental and nobody can see happy other if they're not. The protocols of ISLAM (Religion) founded by Hazrat Muhammad (peace-be-upon-him), says that a woman is not a piece of shit that you can throw where-ever you want to. When our Holy Prophet (peace-be-upon-him) came and preached ISLAM, when many societies like patriarchal were ruling, our Holy Prophet (peace-be-upon-him) started to educate the women also but still people think the only purpose for the woman is born to clean their houses, look-after their children and cook. I mean what is that about women which continues to terrify our society. Why their (women) parents depicted nothing but awe. I'm wondered because I'm also a woman and that's the only reason i decided to write about this topic. I definitely agree with it that the women is also responsible for her condition, we cannot blame our society in every-thing. We don't have any right to judge anybody because you cannot judge a book by it's cover. We must have to respect every woman whether we don't like her. You know life begins when you step out of your comfort zone. We must have to encourage and educate our women if we want to establish a religious and pious community.